He'll always hate to see us cry

Yes all, I do realize a lot of my post are about guys/men in someway. You're probably thinking how a blog can all of a sudden turn into "Cosmo's Advice" column. But figuring men out isn't easy and there sure as hell is no guide on how to understand the complicated situations they present.

Under all of the complex things women do and put guys through, all we really want at the end of the day is somebody who genuinely cares about us. Somebody who compliments us cause they want to and because they mean it. Somebody who'd watch our favorite movies with us though they've seen it a million times. We want somebody to tell us it's gonna be alright when things start looking bad. Most importantly we want somebody who is going to stand by us not only when we're up on top, but somebody who is going to remain there with us once we've hit rock bottom; after all everybody needs somebody to pull them back up. From the looks of it, especially in today's society, the only man who will ever be there for a woman is her father.

It's always hard for a dad to watch his baby girl grow up, but nevertheless he always supports her through the triumphs and tells her to keep trying when she fails. He's the one who taught us how to ride a bike and tie our shoes; he's also the one who picked our bikes back up and encouraged us to get back on after we fell off. When we are feeling sick, he doesn't try and stay away to keep himself germ free, rather he brings us soup and hot cocoa and brings us a puke bucket. He proceeds by sitting by us asking if there is anything he can do to make us feel better..that's just what dad's do. Does it take having a child for a man to turn into a caring human being?

I know that I cannot be the only one who gets into arguments and disagreements with my father, and sometimes we say things that we don't mean. Sometimes we both just need to be mad for a while, but you bet your ass before I go to bed we make nice and he makes sure everything is okay. Our dads HATE to see us cry, but the guys women are with usually appear to care less; should we continue searching when we already have all the love we could ever need from our fathers?

Everybody wants to feel important and loved. It is, in its simplest form, one of man kinds primary needs after the bare necessities. So we spend our lives dedicated to finding "the one" instead of focusing on what really makes us happy; family and friends. Sometimes instead of worrying about what you are doing wrong, we need to focus on what we did right, what we did right to keep the people we already have in our lives there so long. And one thing I know for sure is that a loving father is there forever and always.

If You Like Me Then Say You Like Me

He says cute things and is all into you when it is just you two, but when he is surrounded by his friends he can barely say hi. Why do guys act so differently around their friends? Despite what they may think, us women don't find it cute or funny, we don't think it means you have game or "swagger". Honestly, if you like me just say you like me, and don't stop there; if your going to "like" somebody then show it too.

Some girls are very needy and clingy. They want their guy to be holding their hand constantly, or they want to sit on their lap at a party. Nope, not me. I just would want them to simply talk to me, smile at me, tell his friends "hey this is my girl". If he is too cool to pay me attention around his friends, then I am too cool to be waiting around for him to be a man.

This problem, I assume, goes back centuries, and if not centuries it at least back to when i started 3rd grade. We're good enough to read "Goosebumps" with, but when it came to playing "lightning" with you at recess we might as well have been invisible cause we're never getting a turn. As I have grown up I have only seen this problem become more apparent and on a larger level.

Don't get me wrong, not ALL guys are like this. I have seen guys who want everybody to know "this is my girlfriend" and he'll proceed by introducing her to all his friends and making her comfortable at the party or wherever it may be. But that is a rare exception. Because most guys today seem afraid..afraid of what; judgement, being "whipped"..? Here's a pointer guys, paying your girls attention doesn't mean you're whipped, unmanly or ditching your friends. It simply means that if you really do like her, that you care enough about her to let to her know, your friends know, and to let other girls who may be lurking to get the point (you're taken).

It doesn't take that much effort, in fact it probably takes more effort to change how you act just because your friends are around. Next time around, save us from wasting any of our time with your games. If you like us then say you like us and prove it, if not, then on to our next attempt to find our whoever, whoever they may be.

Never Say Never

They say you can't teach an old dog new tricks. Is this more than a common saying, perhaps this is reality. But I believe that people deserve second chances, maybe even third chances if they prove they are willing to change.

Sometimes all you need is a little guidance, or something, someone, to change for. I can't help but wonder if it is possible for simply another human being to be enough motivation to get another off of the old beaten path and onto a fresh new page.

Am I giving the human species more credit than they deserve? I have seen people try to change and go right back to old habits, yet I cannot help but believe theres still a chance.

Does it take a tragedy for one to realize they're headed the wrong direction, is it self or family motivated or maybe guidance from a higher power? I have been caught up in thinking about this lately. I like to see the best in everybody cause I like to believe that at our core, we're all good people.

Sometimes it is hard and confusing giving somebody a second chances, but sometimes it is worth it. Sometimes they prove your assumptions wrong, and you're left wondering why you've waited so long.

Contrary to that I have seen people given second, third, fourth chances to yet again be a let down. It's not easy and nobody ever said it would be easy. If you can find somebody or something that can make you change for the better hold onto them, and if you're somebody else's motivation to better themselves don't let them down by not being there.

As you can probably tell I have mixed feelings about change and second chances, but it's something that has been on my mind lately. There is no guide on how to go about change, for it's a part of life and life cannot be perfect, only as perfect as you can make it yourself.

HP or die.

Nothing quite compares to  the ABC family Harry Potter marathon weekend. I look forward to these weekends like a bride does her wedding day. There is nothing more comforting than curling up in bed with a fuzzy blanket, switching to the channel and enjoying a few good hours of my main man Harry. Well maybe one thing could make it better..a 'butta beer'.

Just as many others, I have followed Harry, Ron and Hermione on their journey through Hogwarts and into the magic world. I'm sold on their adventures, captivated by the battles, inspired by their courage, and captivated by their gorgeous British accents!

Harry Potter marathon weekends are on about 8 times a year or so and best believe I watch each and every one! Though I have seen each of those movies about 15 to 20 times I still have my eyes glued to the television and and on the edge of my seat.

Though I know that nothing in these movies is possible I still find myself wishing I could live in a world like that. A world of magic, creativity, endless possibilities, and completely unexpected events. While watching these movies you cannot help but feel you are there.

Maybe its just me, but I never get sick of watching Harry Potter. That is truly an ideal weekend to me, Harry Potter marathon, a butter beer and a few good friends.

Where Is The Love?

Sitting cross legged next to Levi on my California king sized bed I realize just how lonely I really am; for when I lay there alone I only occupy 1/8 of the mattress. We both are in need of a man, a crying shoulder, somebody to cuddle with, and somebody to call our own. Hopeless romantics?..maybe.

We dream of a prince charming, a knight in shining armor, a white horse but in reality we cuddle Mr. Nobody. All of our friends have a significant other, how are we so different. Do we have bad breath, stinky BO or are we just over analyzing the situation..we are still unsure.

Maybe we're just looking for a love that is too good to be true, a Cinderella ending..a happily ever after. Is it out there, or is love something you have to work at. Should you get dolled up and try to impress, or should you go natural and put your cards on the table right away. There is no proper guidelines on how to date, fall in love or maintain a relationship yet millions of people wonder why their "happy endings" do not end so "happily".

I'm tired of being lonely, I want Mr. Right in my life. The kind of person that is the  "peanut butter to my jelly", "the mac to my cheese", and the "dynamic duo, batman & robin". There seems to be flaws in every option out there, and the ones that are flawless expose their true colors over time, leading to a disappointing heartbreak.

They always say that you may not be winning, but if you're still fighting you haven't lost yet. This is true, but what if you have nobody to be fighting for do you still fight for romance? That is the question Levi and I are attempting on tackling. For tonight we'll settle on cuddling with each other.